Should women stay at home with their children or go back to work?
72The motherhood
Natural way of living for a mother is to stay with the children. The nature has created mother to breast feed and to look after her child. That is why the word mother has so much charm and affection!!
However, modern living has braught us out of the natural way of living. We are so artificial now! We are rushing towards luxury and comfort endlessly. Consumerism is in its peak. Governments, industrialists, media every one is encouraging blunt consumerism. All these need money. Hence, there is a madness for money. Most of us have joined the rat race and nothing is left in our hands. This is a terrible situation. No one but we ourselves have to be blamed for this situation.
Many of so called Modern mothers do not even hesitate to kill their babies during pregnancy. Abortions are daily phenomenon. Some governments passed legislations in favor of abortion! There is hue and cry for womens right. In fact, motherhood is the right of women that nature has gifted her. However, we wrongly advocate for right of abortion as right for women!!!!
Shameful!
Mothers feel that they have to work outside to earn money and they are doing so. But is it justified?
It is better for a mother to stay at home for parenting children and let the father work to earn bread. It was the situation some decades back. This situation still prevails in many countries.
What is your opinion about abortion?
See results without votingMotherhood in India
Indian woman love to be in house with their children. They work a lot to grow them. Divorce is not yet a common phenomenon and the male member generally bears responsibility to earn for the entire family. However, consumerism has expanded its legs to the country and some of females are now giving priority to work out side and earn money. They prefer to do jobs to uplift their living standard but percentage of those are still less.
We still find large number of joint families or at least famiies where both parents live together with their children. People intended to take divorces often restrict themselves from it because of their children.
Working Mothers
Should mother stay at home to nourish children?
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Some may think me against freedom of women. However, I am not against their freedom. Freedom does not limit to economic freedom only. Motherhood is an attribute and most of the women like it. They feel completeness with their children.
They may work outside if economic condition compel them to do so. They may go to earn when children are grown enough.
While advocating freedom of women we must not forget the rights of children. Their physical and menatal health, education etc are seriously affected if not properly cared by the mother. Children have the right to be cared and loved by their mother. This right should also be protected.
Growth can not be measured only in financial terms. There are many other aspects of the life. Can we live a family to braek instead of its tremendous growth in monetary terms?
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Womens donot work they should be with there child
I like to be a housewife becoz i love my childrens
Foolish
First of all,
Good Morning all of you.
According to me mother should stay with her children and look after her children up to 3years,then she can go work if need.
I agree with you. Thanks for commenting.
I AGREE WITH YOU . I THINK MOTHER SHOULD STAY AT HOME WITH HER CHILDren TILL THEY GO TO NURSERY AND THEN IT IS THE BEST WORKING PART TIME. But now days mostly mothers love money, holidays and jobs more than their children and they think it is perfectly right that childminder or nursery will take care of their infant. WHY DO THEY MAKE CHILDREN IF THEY DONT WANT TO LOOK AFTER THEM AT LEAST FIRST 3 YEARS. FOR ME IT IS SO WRONG
I HAD A COMPOSITION ON SHOULD A MOTHER GO TO WORK OR BE A HOME MAKER IT IS TOO USEFUL TO ME THANKS
i agree with the message coz ma mother is going to work i really hate it because she is not with me yo spend the time
Hi mr. Jyoti
I readed you're article and,while i don't agree with the fact that ''women are at home,man at work'' and ''Abortion is banned'' facts,i respect you're opinion.I know some women (and men.Don't forget men) want to be housewife/househusband but some (like me) would hate it to no end.For the abortion topic,well,it's a picky subject so here : I think that what matter the most is the mother : If the mother is raped and forced to keep the baby,will she be happy? no if the mother is in health danger and die giving birth to the baby,will her family be happy? no. and if the mother have and ''accident'' (forget to have a condom,condom cracked) and is forced to have the baby even tough she wanted to focus on her study or whatever (because university with a kid is,let's say,difficult) i doubt she will be happy.To resume,i think it should be the women choice to abort,take care or give to adoption the baby.I have a personal story on abortion : One of my friend was gang-raped by her ex-boyfriend and the brother of her ex.She became pregnant with one of them.The problem is that she have a VERY weak heart condition and could die if she give birth,her parents also give her an ultimatum : Give birth to the baby,GTFO abort the baby,you can stay.So she aborted (because of her heart,she nearly died,too) .But she not a bad or selfish person,you know.Again,this subject is deeply controversial,especially for religious people,i guess (since i'm atheist i don't really know) and go to the foundation of society and morality.But this is my opinion
Have a nice day and a good year to come
women should concentrate and spend more time to thier children rather than carrier.
it is one of the initiative to prevent their child from involving in bad activities.
I think that a mother should stay home with her child.
Hi Jyoti, I think it is very important for women to be financially independent and earn her own money. It makes the family strong. In case of partner death or sickness, she can still support herself and children. The advantages are just too many. I encourage every woman to stand on their own feet, no matter what their spouse is earning.
I personally became financially free using passive income strategies before I became mother.
There is always a win-win situation. So, there are strategies where parents can spend time with their children and still be financially free.
To me, it is a little bit risky to quit your job without any financial backup of your own.
I have been with my children since they were born. They have never been in a childcare facility.
That said, now that my twins are 4 and my youngest is a couple months short of 3, I have started working a couple of days a week for my father at his store. The hope is that someday I will run it. My husband has a home business and on the days I am working he takes charge of the house.
I AM SO HAPPY THIS WAY! It is a wonderful arrangement.
I absolutely agree with the article. I fully appreciate that what the article portrays is not discriminatory against women. We seem to forget our natural responsibilities and begin to seek happiness through wealth accumulation and making ourselves independent. We live in a world that interlinks with people so when you say you want to be independent you never actually are, because even when you work you are dependent on your job and the boss that you work for. In fact, if women did stay at home their human (ie natural) duties will be fulfilled and will gain more independence. This is because in this world where we have men and women a man in never complete without a woman and vice versa. A home is built rather than a house when a husband and wife work together, with the aim of making the familt better and not themselves. I also think man have a role to play in this, just because they earn they should not think of themselves as masters of the universe, they too should remember that they were looked after a woman for 9 months at the least!
On the topic of abortion, I am absolutely appalled as to how human views have changed over time. The more educated we seem to get the more brainless we act! Abortion is a killing of another human, in fact your own child! Imagine if your mother had done that to you! This is the same case with caesarian births where women choose to have that rather then a natural birth simply because is it is less painful. If women cant fulfil their natural duties how can they fulfil any responsibilities.
The sad thing is womanhood seems like its has lost its way, women may not have been physically strong but they were mentally and true guardians of the human race once, as soon as that was lost humanity and naturalness has been lost!
womens should be at there home to nourish their children because without mother there is no one to nourish them and they get out of control . they sink their parents name and fame in water . therefore i said this
i dont know man
I have debate in my college, 'women should not go to work'
This will very useful to me.
Thanks!
women should be allowed to do what ever they want, not to do what other people expect them to do. i belive that women should stay home and look after thier children however i also believe a woman should have a qulification, so that she can be independent when needed too
What is more wonderful to stay at home and look after your baby and love it and take great care of it. You have a house to look after and washing and ironing and cooking your husbands meal. Why have a baby and give it to strangers to look after. People have no idea who looks after their child in daycare of what type of person they are. Nothing nicer than having a lovely baby and home and husband. Do not worry about the neighbours what they have or try and keep up with them or live beyond your means. Have no credit cards and you will be wealthy.
What you do not understand is that being a stay at home parent means DEPRESSION and ISOLATION.
women are very social being, making them stay at home means going against their nature.
women need to stay in society and a job keeps you socialized.
I agree whole heartedly that a mother's place is with her children. My 9 month old son's father wanted me to kill our child but I could never bring myself to do such a horrible thing. He left me because I refused to and now wants nothing to do with our son or myself. I have given my son every second of my time for the last 9 months but I find myself needing to go back to work so I can feed my son. I despise his father for putting me in this situation.
most jobs only give 6 weeks for giving thats from the time you live till you get back. alot can happen befor, during, and after burth. not to mention all the dr visets, school actives, and forbide chiled hood injreys that work scudles just dont work around. yes i think its fine work just as long as the kids dont sufer. but at some pointe it boiles down to you saying "i need time off for susies play" and your boss saying "you can see the next one we need you hear." or " its you kid or your job." and yes the goverment says all big binness need to have a FLA but if you miss to much work it dose not mater. weather its a the flue foled by chiken poks they can lower your pay scail depending on how long your gone. sorry bosse man but there is more then food that my kids need and thats a shoulder to cry on for the first brocken heart or arms to run in to whan the thay scour there first pointe.
i do not think that woman should stay home with there kid for so long untill she reach 18 that is totally rang.
I would like to stay home with my children
i am a man and i would like women to stay at home and bring up their children the way they like them to be . this will give more respect to women and give more chance to man to feel safe and not borden himself in what happen at home only concentrate himself at work .this prevent kids from violence and more ather dangerous habbits that most of our kids threatened by..
please can u give some negative points about women empowerment? i have debate about it and i searched all the source but all i get is a +ve points.
pls help me.
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I am a mother of two, I was working before my second baby is born. I choose to quit job after my second baby's first birthday.. I believe that it is always a matter of choice whether Mother should love to work or be a full time mother at home.. we have certain situations in our lives, especially in our family life that needs careful decision that will give best options for our family. In my case, being a full time mother is what I love to do. I may not earn a lot but I still try my best to look for alternative ways of earning money to help our family budget. It is always important to know your priorities and mine is being a full time mom.
Dear Jyoti Kothari!
Hi, I want to say taht your article helped me in my presentation in university, when I tried to persuade my groupmates, especially the girls, that it's better to stay at home rather than go back to work. I just want to say thank you, and good luck :)
Hi Saule,
I have clarified in the hub that it is better to stay in the home for a mother but if it is absolutely necessary one has to go out and work.
There is no rigidness, no confusion.
Thanks for your comment.
Jyoti Kothari
perhaps, if you have opportunity to stay at home and look after your kids, it is fine. But, what about single moms, who had to work? they've got to work in order to nourish their kids, is'n it?
Hi Destiny,
Thanks for your motherhood. I agree with you mostly.
Thanks for commenting on this hub.
Jyoti Kothari
I lean towards feminism in so many cases (most), but I feel very strongly that women should raise their own children rather than teachers/daycare. They should be home at least half of the day to care for and love their babies, though I don't know where one would draw a line there. I have two children, and stay home with them. I feel obligated, but love to do what's best for them anyway. I have this saying: My children were born through me. That means I should not send them to other people to care for them %80 of the time.
This is all assuming that the mother CAN stay home; that it is a matter of luxury or choice..
Hi Indian Lady,
I agree with you that abortion must be made illegal by the Governments. It is simply killing babies at pre-matured stage.
I am of an opinion that mothers should stay at home, if possible, to nurture their chidren This is the natural way of living.
I do not think this as against freedom of women.
Thanks for commenting.
Jyoti Kothari
Jyoti Kothari,
I agree with you. Mother, if possible, should stay at home. in fact there is nothing like being a mother.
I can not understand how some female go for abortion! They do it for what? It is really misuse of freedom of women. Government should make it illegal.
I can not even think living much time without my children. I prefer to stay home.
Thanks for a great hub.
Indian lady
London girl and Sunstreak,
It is repeatedly told that this is a matter of individual perception. My perception may be different from yours. Some other persons may have some other opinion. What I told is my opinion and I have supported that with my own logic. The case may be different with you or some one else.
I personally respect your view point, because life is yours and you have full and final right to live as you like.
What I think, mother is the first and foremost gurdian of a baby. Father comes the next. Nature gives this right to mother and not to father (in way of breast feeding). Father comes next when child care is concern.
Again this is my opinion and you can differ with me and that is al right. I respect your view point.
Jyoti Kothari
I am a single mom. I went back to work when my daughter was 4 months, she is now 4 years.
I've recently been laid off last month, but my daughter is used to mommy working full time. I love working and I take alot of pride in my work. Even if I wasn't single and could stay home, I would'nt. I love my daughter so much, but I'm not the stay at home mom type. My daughter gets an excellent preschool education as well as social experiences at her daycare.
It should not be assumed that women work just to pay the bills. Some women enjoy working immensly because it makes them feel good. This also should not mean that a mother loves her child any less just because she would rather work then spend all hours in the home with her children.
I agree with londongirl on the responsibilties comment. If my daughters father and I were living in the same home, it would be expected that he contribute just as much attention to raising our daughter as I do once we come home from work.
The mother shouldn't shoulder the responsibilies at both. The father should be equally involved.
The mother shouldn't shoulder the responsibilies at both. The father should be equally involved.
Hi Dineane,
It is, ofcourse, a matter of choice. I believw that it is difficult for a mother to shoulder responsibilities both at home and work place.
Jyoti Kothari
I agree - lots of women want to stay at home. But some (including Indian woman) do not want to.
sorry - don't know why that double-posted!
Well, there are not enough choices in your poll for me to vote. I'd say "yes, if the want to, and circumstances allow." But I'd never say that they have to. Often fathers are much better choices to stay at home with the kids while mom works. And even more often, both mom and dad work and take advantage of excellent childcare...which is what I and my daughter's father did when she was young. I don't think we screwed her up too bad, either!
vimbai chirimuhanzu 9 days ago
ladies and gents how are you all and yes a mother should work for her children because when a girl grows up what do you accpet her to go to collage and maybe staying home l mean she has a right and please let raise them right